Your wedding invitation undoubtedly sets the stage for your wedding. Whether you are a modern or traditional bride, it is essential to choose an invitation that represents your personal style. Once that decision is made, selecting the correct verbiage for your invitations is of utmost importance. Here’s a quick rundown for Miss Manners:
Names and Spelling
The host(s), or who is essentially paying for the wedding issues a wedding invitation. The hosts’ name(s) are mentioned first and are spelled out to include middle names and titles. Titles such as Mr. and Mrs. are not spelled out. Doctor should be spelled out, unless the name would be too long to fit on one line. The phrase “the honour of your presence” is used when the ceremony will take place in a house of worship. Honour is spelled with a “u” in the British fashion. For other venues “the pleasure of your company” is the traditional wording. If the bride shares her parents’ last name, only her first and middle name are used. The groom’s name is spelled out, and is preceded by a title. For example: Mr. Stephen Eugene Hall.
Date and Time
The date is also spelled out, as is the year. Note that there is no “and” two thousand thirteen. The day of the week and the month are capitalized; the year is not. Use the phrase “half after” when indicating time, rather than “half past” or “four-thirty.” The phrases “in the afternoon” and “in the evening” are not necessary. Provide the city and state of the wedding location. The state is spelled in full, but may be omitted if all guests are local.
RSVP is only used on reception invitations or combination wedding/reception invitations; it’s not used on wedding-only invitations. When used, it goes on the lower left. RSVP on its own indicates that replies should be sent to the return address on the outer envelope of the invitation. If you want replies sent to a different postal address, or to include an email address or phone number as alternative methods, then that information should be put on the lower left below RSVP. RSVP isn’t necessary if you’re including stamped addressed reply cards.
Do not mention gifts or attire on the wedding invitation. It is assumed that most weddings are semi-formal. For formal weddings, “Black tie” may be written in the lower right on a reception invitation.